Sober 2015 New Years Coming Soon - Will You Break ?

Well, in one week we will all be celebrating another New Years. The years fly by so fast, and for me, it will be one more sober New Years.

Sober 2015 New Years coming soon.  Will you break, or will you be strong enough to say no one more time?  For all of us alcoholics that used to drink like there was no tomorrow on New Years and in fact, everyday of the year, we need to stay strong and not let anyone or anything make us break and take that sip of alcohol no matter what day it is during the years and that includes New Years.

For me, if I took one sip of alcohol and got that taste on my tongue I would be doomed.  I truly think it would be the same for millions of alcoholics that have gotten clean and sober.

I am not about to take that chance and I would highly recommend anyone that has found his/her sobriety not to take that chance either.  It is truly NOT worth what the outcome would be.  If you happen to break, or as I call it, RELAPSE, YOU WILL NOT forgive yourself!

I can not imagine how I would feel if I took that drink on New Years, because that one drink will indeed lead to one more and then possibly all night of drinking, because you would probably think to yourself, "I drank already so what is the difference between one drink and many in the same night?" The damage is done!

For me, I would be so disappointed in myself, not to say how disappointed our family, spouses, children, etc. would feel after you and I have done so well with your sobriety over the years.

Don't get me wrong, I would love to drink and party away celebrating the New Years 2015, but I know I can not have one drink.  I know my body, and how I am, so why take that chance?

Please, if you feel the urge to drink while at a 2015 New Years party, STOP and think what you are about to do to yourself before you take that sip of alcohol. If you are strong enough the urge will pass!

So in ending, I want to wish everyone a Safe, Sober and Happy New Years.  And especially to all my Sober friends.  We live life everyday sober, and this New Years is NO different.  It is only another day of the year, with a title to it.  It is no different than all the other days of the year we live sober.

Think before you drink my friends!  Everyone of us SOBER men and ladies can have just as much fun on New Years, Sober, in fact, this will be my 5th Sober New Years and I have a blast at each one of them and I will have a blast this New Years 2015 and wake up the next morning remembering the evening, and with NO HANGOVER!

God Bless each and every person on Earth.  Be strong and say NO to Alcohol and Drugs.

When Is Enough Enough When It Comes To Alcohol Addiction?

How Much Can Your Body Take ?

When someone has an addiction to alcohol, and they have been abusing alcohol for so many years, when is enough enough when it comes to an alcohol addiction?

When is it time to make a change in ones life, and get clean and sober before it is too late?

Alcohol addiction is a horrible thing. I know I was there for many years and to tell you the truth I thought I had NO problem whatsoever, even though so many people thought so different.

If your are addicted to alcohol and abuse alcohol to the point that you need it everyday of the week, you must have looked in the mirror and have seen the difference in yourself.

Did you, or do you see someone different staring back at you in that mirror? Are you afraid of what you see or you just don't care at all? Are you in denial and thinking you have no problem with the alcohol you drink each and everyday?

Are you the type of person that knows you have a addiction to alcohol but are to a shamed to ask for the help you need to get and stay sober?

Deep down inside you, you must know there is a huge problem with the life you lead. I knew that problem, but I was too embarrassed to ask or admit I needed help.

When do you think enough is enough when it comes to stopping drinking? Would it be when your body starts to shut down because of the abuse you put it through all the years of drinking alcohol?

Would it be time to say goodbye to your addiction to alcohol when a Doctor tells you your liver is shot and there is no repairing it now.

Would those words be enough to say, "I am going to get sober and stop drinking alcohol." I would certainly hope so.

I realize that trying to break the horrible habit of drinking and abusing alcohol is a huge task. I know I was there back in October of 2009 when I said enough was enough and I needed to stop drinking alcohol forever.

When Is the Time to Stop Drinking Forever?

If you are an alcoholic, and know you have a problem, then what measures should you take in order to change your life around for the better and start living the clean life?

• First off, you must get out of the denial you are living in and realize you need to stop drinking and get sober.
• You need to look into that mirror and see who is looking back at you. Are you happy with who is looking at you, or are you a shamed of what you have become because of an avoidable alcohol addiction.
• Are you proud to say you are an alcoholic or are you embarrassed to even mention it to anyone?
• Do you like the way your body has changed over the years of drinking, such as weight gain or weight loss?
• Do you hide from those that do not drink alcohol and drink alone?
• Are you happy with your family life, such as your spouse, children, parents and friends?
• Are those people fed up with you and your addiction to alcohol?
• Are your family and friends beginning to stay distant from you because of you addiction?

I can go on and on, but you get what I am saying, I hope. You need to sit down and take a good hard look at your life and the lives of those that love and care for you.

You have to want sobriety for yourself and not be forced into living a clean and sober life, because I have found that if you don't want sobriety in your life, no person or place will make that happen without the will and pure determination of the alcoholic.

You need to help yourself before any place or person can help you. You have to have it in your heart and soul that you want a better life for yourself and your family, and until you want it for yourself, things will be a bit rough getting and staying sober.

I am not a Doctor or a Therapist, but through my experience of drinking alcohol I know if you don't want to change your life, then recovery is in the distant future until you are 110 % ready to change and get sober on your terms and not someone that is forcing you to get sober.

I did it and so can you my friends. With the willingness, determination and huge desire to make your life right, you can and will get and stay sober.

Once you take that first step towards sobriety, never let anyone or anything get in your way or try to stop your road to recovery. There will be lots of things that may happen in your life as they happened in my life once I got sober, BUT never let it get to you to the point of picking up that drink to drown your problems and sorrows.

If so, it will be the worst mistake of your life and believe me, you will be so disappointed in yourself by letting the demons take control of your body again.

Be STRONG and stand up to the addiction to alcohol that could of, or did ruin your life once before. Believe and you will achieve sobriety my friends!!

Get Yourself Sober Than Help Others Do The Same

Back in 2009 I said to myself, " Mark lets get yourself sober and help others do the same" and that is exactly what I have done since October of 2009.

I write just about every night either here on this blog, or my Clean Life blog, and then HubPages in which I have over 440 hubs written on alcohol abuse, sobriety, ways to get sober, positive attitudes and much more.

I love writing on alcohol addiction and ways that I found that helped me get and stay sober for almost 5 years now.  Writing is really a great help keeping me sober.  Everything I write, I have in my mind as I write them, and that is, "this one article I am writing just might help a person somewhere in the world to get and stay sober."

I can't stress enough in my writing just how sobriety has changed my life, and the lives around me, such as my wife, children and Grandchildren.  I literally put them through pure hell with my alcohol abuse and never wanting to do anything with them unless I had a drink in my hand.

When I look back in time I feel so ashamed and weak. I was too weak to fight my inner demons that ran my life and other lives for so many years.  It truly makes me sick in my stomach now knowing that I put my family and friends behind my addiction to alcohol.

Well, as I write today I am sober and the past is the past and I only now look for much better things to come in my life and the lives that surround me.

If you have recently got sober then I commend you to the highest level in life.  Now your job, as is my job, is to remain sober forever, and start to help those that are suffering from an addiction as we were in the past.  It is so rewarding to know you have helped someone to make up their minds to stop drinking.

It truly wasn't that hard to quit drinking once I made up my mind and got out of the denial I lived in for so many years.  Once I admitted I truly had an alcohol problem, and was willing to surrender once and for all, the rest fell right in place.

Mine you, when you stop drinking, you have to give sobriety 110%.  There can not be any thing such as what I used to say, and that is this:

• I will only drink on weekends.
• I will only drink on Holidays and special occasions.
• I will only drink on the days I have off from work.

If you are ready to get sober, and you have abused alcohol, then the above will NOT work!  It didn't work for me at all and I had tried those methods many times and failed each and every time I tried.

You are only fooling yourself when you try to do as the above states.  Sobriety (LONG TERM SOBRIETY) is all or nothing my friends. 

Finding The Willpower To Quit Drinking Alcohol

Finding the willpower to quit drinking takes some real doings.  I should know, it was the hardest thing I'd ever done.

My question to myself was, "what will my life be like if I stop drinking alcohol?" Will I get sick, or will I be bored to death with the new life I will have with alcohol not in my life?

The way I finally quit drinking alcohol back in October of 2009 was, I finally admitted I truly had a alcohol problem and I got out of the denial I was living in for so long.  That was number one, and the first step towards my sobriety and my new life.

It truly takes willpower to say NO I don't want and alcohol ever again. For someone like myself and for all those that do have an addiction to alcohol it is really hard to say goodbye to something you love and for something that has been a huge part of your life for so many years.

You need that positive attitude telling yourself that you can and will beat this addiction to alcohol.  Being negative and thinking you may not be able to get sober will make this harder than you think.

You need to be in the right frame of mind.  You have to want to get sober on your own and not be forced into something you are just not ready to do yet.  Once you have had enough of your life and want a new life for yourself, and those that love and care for you, you will be on the right track to sobriety.

The willpower to say, No I don't drink anymore is something I thought I'd never say in my life, but it happened and I am proud to say, "I don't drink anymore!"

Anyone can stop drinking like I did, but you must want it first and foremost!  If sobriety is not in your heart and soul, it will never work.

Ask for Professional Help to get you on the right track and get yourself clean and sober.  It is never too late to change your life and those lives around you, because remember, your family is suffering right along with you and your addiction.

Give yourself the gift of life, and get and stay sober.  You will never be sorry you did.

Read more of my articles about alcohol addiction, positive attitudes and happiness on Hubpages.

Tips On How I Stopped Drinking Alcohol

Here are some tips on how I stopped drinking alcohol and have been clean and sober for over 3 years now. 

First and foremost you need to want to get clean and sober and have to honest with yourself.  You can not cheat and say, "I will only drink on Holidays and weekends, like I did in the beginning of my partial sobriety.

If you know you have an addiction to alcohol and want to get sober, then it has to be all the way or nothing.  I thought that I could drink on weekends and Holidays, but it didn't work for too long.  The weekend drinking then went into one more day of the week and then no drinking for the rest of the week.  I was only kidding myself, but thought I was bringing peace to the household by not drinking alcohol for half of the week.

If you are like me and always needed alcohol in your life each and everyday of the week, then there is no happy medium for us.  There has to be a commitment to yourself that if you were to stop drinking alcohol, it has to be totally and not drink a couple days a week.  It didn't work for me and more than likely it will not work for you if you have an addiction to alcohol like I did.

So, the first thing you need to do is to want sobriety back into your life.  You need to change your outlook in life and stop feeling sorry for yourself and saying, "poor me, why is nothing going right in my life."  You need to change your attitude and make it a positive attitude and stop being so negative in your life.  Trust me, if you have a positive attitude and have a very strong desire to get sober and stay sober, than you have made a great decision and you will get sober with that attitude.

You can not think to yourself, Oh it will be too hard to get sober so why ever try to stop drinking alcohol.  That is one shitty attitude, and with that kind of attitude, you will continue to drink alcohol until the day you day from it.

Nothing great in life is easy, and that goes for getting and staying sober forever.  Everyday you will face alcohol somewhere in your day, but you must stay strong and not let the demons come back into your life and start taking full control over the one and only life you have.

This is the cover of my Ebook titled "My Life With Alcohol Addiction."

It simply explains when and why I started to drink.  It was to hide from my problems and as I continued to drink I became more addicted and that lasted for 33 years of my life.

My Ebook

****You can find many other articles I have written in my other blog called The Clean Life.****

How To Live A Happy Life Without Alcohol In It

Everyone in the world wants to be happy right?  Some of us think that drinking alcohol makes us fun and a happy person, but are you really happy?

How to live a happy life without alcohol in it depends on each one of us and the way we go about or lives.  Whether we just drink to be social or go all out and abuse alcohol. I have nothing against drinking alcohol when it is done responsibly and not abuse it.  I am the first to say I loved drinking alcohol, but it didn't love me, so I had to think what was more important, my addiction to alcohol or my family and my life.

Isn't it funny how people that drink and sometime abuse alcohol thinks that by drinking alcohol they will have a ball at whatever they are doing, whether it be at a party or parking themselves at the bar for hours on end.  Sure it is fun in the beginning until the alcohol started to take effect and your judgement and senses go out the window.

Is it really that fun if you may have said something wrong or mean to someone that really means something to you, and if you were sober those words would of never come out of your mouth.  Is drinking really fun if you leave a function or bar and get pulled over and given a DUI, court date and possibly jail time?  Is drinking alcohol fun if God for bid you were involved in a car crash and possibly hurt or killed a innocent person or persons and ever yourself?

Happiness doesn't ever come from a bottle of alcohol, and we all know that, but for some reason we continue to drink and abuse alcohol thinking our life will be much happier while drinking.

If you think this way you couldn't be more wrong!  Happiness comes from true love, contentment, being positive, loving your family and friends unconditionally, loving your own life and loving yourself enough not to abuse your one and only body with the poison we all call ALCOHOL!

Only if we the alcoholics or those that overdue drinking now and then would only realize that drinking to ease the pain you maybe in, or drown your sorrows because of being in debt or a sickness in the family, or just because you are unhappy WILL NOT solve a thing in your life, it only makes matters worse!

If you want true happiness in your life, don't turn to alcohol.  If you are married and have children, think of something all of you would love to do, or a place you would love to go and just do it.  Spend quality time with your family and friends and do it being sober.  Stop drinking alcohol and abusing it, and live life with sobriety.  Believe me you won't be sorry for this life change! Your body will indeed thank you for it.

All of us are only here on Earth one time, so why destroy your life with alcohol.  Make the best of each day whether you are a single person or have a family.  Everyday we wake up and open our eyes to a new day is so precious, so lets enjoy life the way God intended us to do.

REMEMBER: HAPPINESS IS NOT IN A BOTTLE!

Check out my eBook and My Life Of Alcohol Addiction.
Thank you for taking time to read this Blog, and feel free to leave a comment if you so desire.
Mark

CRUSHING ALCOHOLISM

Crushing alcohol addiction is a new blog I have started and to be added to the blog I have already have called "The Clean Life." I started The Clean Life blog about three years ago after I surrendered to my own addiction to alcohol. I had been drinking alcohol for many of years and starting at the age of 19 years old. Something that started out as a experiment and having a good ole time with the guys turned out to be an addiction to alcohol in the end.

 Anyone that has an addiction to alcohol knows that it is a tough addiction to break, especially if your heart and soul is not into getting clean and sober. You need to have to want sobriety so bad that you will do anything in the world to get sober and stay sober for the rest of your life. I am sure that many alcoholics may think, as I did, what is the sense of stopping drinking when the damage is already done. We are only making excuses to not surrendering to our addiction. I thought the same way, and lived in denial for all those years thinking, " I don't have an addiction to alcohol and anyone that thinks I have are totally crazy.

 We are only lying to ourselves. You need to have a positive attitude when you have decided to stop drinking alcohol and with having the right frame of mind and wanting sobriety so bad it will not work. Sure it may work for a week or possibly a month until something has gone wrong in your life and you go back to alcohol to fix the problem. You need to be strong and have the determination to stay sober in order for you to have long term sobriety.

Once you have taken that first step towards sobriety there will be a few things you may have to give up besides your addiction to alcohol, and they are as follows:

First of all, you have to make a promise to yourself that once you have got out of the lived in for so long and what to change your life you need to promise yourself that you will never be able to pick up another alcoholic drink again.  Once you have made that promise to yourself you then will see other things that you may have to give up.

For myself, I had to give up and stay clear of all my past drinking buddies and I would imagine you will have to do the same.  I realize that the so called good friends only were my friend because we all had something in common and that was drinking alcohol.  They will look at you like you have two heads when you tell them you have stopped drinking alcohol.  Believe me, they will try everything in their power to stop you from quitting drinking.

You will have to stay clear of passing your favorite bars and night clubs.

You will need to keep yourself very busy, mentally and physically in order for you not to have time to think of the addiction you have just stopped.

For me, and I am only talking about me here.  I can now go to bars and I have been to weddings and none of the people that are drinking alcohol and the so called fun they are having drinking there life away bothers me whatsoever.  I order my root beer and black coffee and I am happy.  Many people ask me "why are you not bothered by people drinking alcohol in front of you?"  My answer is that I made my mind up, and made a promise to myself that I will never drink alcohol again, and I am a man of my word and do not break promises especially to myself.

Here is a link to my eBook called, My Life Of Alcohol Addiction.  It is about when and why I started to drink alcohol and how I stopped my addiction going cold turkey.

Any person that has an addiction can do this.  It is all in your mind and having the strength to say the word NO!  It really is as simple as that!